Knowing your marriage is heading toward divorce often raises more questions and concerns than anything. There are many items to consider, all which you have to juggle while trying to do what’s best for you and your family. Can you afford it? What will happen to your shared finances? How will divorce affect your time with your children? Thankfully, these questions and more can be answered through careful preparation before your divorce.
5 Tips for Preparing for Your Divorce
Your life will change during your divorce and in the months and years to follow. To help you and your family cope with the changes, here are five key tips to consider.
- Learn About the Divorce Process
No two divorces are the same. But there are similarities across the many steps in the divorce process. Before you file for divorce, it’s best to do your research and understand the process depending on factors such as whether your divorce is amicable and what your state’s requirements are for seeking a divorce.
Understanding the divorce process can help you prepare for the moments to come. It helps you consider all your options such as trying your hand at mediation or going the more traditional court route. It also helps alleviate any surprises that often come to those who hide their head in the sand throughout the process.
- Gather Your Support
Build your support network. Yes, it’s important to consider hiring an attorney to represent you during your divorce. Your attorney can assist you in achieving the best results for you and your family, in the least amount of time possible.
It’s also important to gather loved ones around you whom you trust to lean on for emotional support. You’re going to need people who can help you with all the emotional items that arise, as well as the tactical issues of helping with childcare.
- Prepare Your Finances
There will be costs associated with your divorce. From paying your attorney to child care and beyond, divorces add up. It’s best to prepare financially by ensuring you have enough cash flow to carry you through.
You’ll also want to consider if you’re financially stable enough on your own to handle your expenses. If not, now is the time to begin setting money aside to help finance your divorce. You’ll need to be in a comfortable place financially during the divorce and for the time that follows.
- Consider the Needs of Your Children
Children often have a difficult time dealing with divorce. You can help prepare them by talking with them about the divorce and what they can expect. If you and your partner are able, discuss custody with one another and how that might look after your divorce. If an amicable arrangement isn’t possible, be sure to make it clear to your kids that they are cared for and that you are going to do all you can to keep their normal routines remain intact.
- Prepare Yourself Emotionally
A plethora of emotions will arise during divorce. Do whatever you can to prepare yourself emotionally for what’s to come. You may want to reach out to a professional counselor or therapist to help you work through the emotions and thoughts you’ll be processing during this phase.
Are You Preparing for a Divorce?
If so, you don’t have to do it alone. Divorce is often a difficult process for everyone involved. To learn more about how to best prepare, send us a message.