Post Divorce Tip: Set Kids Up for Successful Return To School
School is just around the corner. Kids and parents alike are excited for that first day. Some are excited to meet a new teacher, new friends and maybe even start at a new school. Apprehension is likely mixed in with this excitement, but parents that have recently finalized or are going through the process of a divorce may be a bit more apprehensive than most.
How will the kids adjust? Kids are fairly flexible. However, a recent article in the Chicago Tribune discussed the transition back to school in these situations and was careful to note that parents should always remember kids are kids. It doesn’t matter if they are 16 and taller than you – they are still kids.
As such, even older kids have not developed the coping mechanisms needed to help them through this transition. Take the time to have conversations with them to see how they are doing.
How will we get all the information? It is important to communicate. Communicate with your kids, communicate with their teachers and communicate with your ex.
When communicating with your kids, make sure you have all the information about their obligations. Are they interested in taking on more extracurricular activities? Are there extra study sessions before or after school (this can be of particular concern if kids are taking any college prep or advanced placement courses)? What does their pick up and drop off schedule look like? Make sure these areas are addressed and planned for before school starts.
It is also a good idea to touch base with the teacher. Even amicable divorces can impact kids. Let the teacher know so that he or she can work with you to help better ensure the child has a successful year.
As difficult as it may be, it is also important to continue to communicate with your ex. Thankfully, there are many ways you can communicate. You can have these conversations in person, through email or even by simply updating an online calendar. Find a method that works best for your situation and use it.